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HOW I DEALT WITH THE DIAGNOSIS OF MY BEST FRIEND

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THE DIAGNOSIS OF MY BEST FRIEND

This post was originally written in 2012. It has been expanded and updated as necessary.** 

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I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in 2008. My best friend was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2012. As a survivor, I felt that I had an inside track to understanding what it meant to go through breast cancer treatment with someone. I mean, who is closer to you than you? No one, that’s for sure. I assumed that my experience with breast cancer and the treatment… along with all of the reading and research that I’ve done over the past few years prepared me and strengthened me and made me strong enough to withstand the tsunami of emotions that come along with the words “…has breast cancer”.

And yet, when I found out that one of my dearest friends was waiting for results from a biopsy during the Christmas holidays… I was rendered numb. I literally felt nothing. For me, that is wholly strange because I shed a tear and feel a twinge when someone tells me that someone they know and care about has the disease. Whether I know this person or not. I shed a tear every time. And as often as someone shares that message with me… it has added up to a lot of tears over time. But, I felt nothing when I heard that she was waiting for biopsy results to determine whether she had breast cancer. That worried me.

Everything went silent inside of me.

I didn’t know what to feel. I didn’t know what to say. Everything I had said to other people didn’t really apply because this was MY friend. Not a stranger that I was comforting. Not even myself that I had to give a pep talk to. This was a woman I had been friends with for over 15 years. Someone I never had to lie to, who never had to lie to me… and here I was… numb and dumbstruck. Until I was laying on her couch on New Year’s day… hungover and headachy and she told me that while I was napping off the champagne the doctor had called to confirm the results.

At that moment… I lost every possible cool point I may have ever had in my entire life. I didn’t rush to hug her, I didn’t have the right words of compassion and encouragement. No. I was that loser chick who screamed out… “BUT I DON’T WANT THIS FOR YOU!!” Which meant that she ended up consoling me for a moment.

*hangs head in shame*

In the one moment in our friendship where I could have repaid her for all the times she’s taken care of me, loved me, chastised me (because sometimes I need to be scolded)… I could only wail to God that it just wasn’t fair. In her face. Not even in private, like the bathroom, so she didn’t have to witness my breakdown.

Please don’t be a friend like me. Don’t be the friend who makes the person with the diagnosis have to stop her own grieving to console you. That’s selfish AF and it’s just not cool. This is her moment. Her time to BE consoled. Be a much better friend than I was. I beg you.

 

After the shock wore off… I got my head out of my ass and opened up to her

Over the weeks since her news, I have cried about her diagnosis and mine. And once I found my words… I have been honest with her in a way that I  haven’t been honest with anyone since I was diagnosed. I have been honest about navigating the emotional landmines. I’ve been harsh. Not harsh towards her, but harshly honest about how I dealt with (and still deal with) this stupid disease. I haven’t spoken to her a lot. I didn’t want to become that sort of pesky, well-intentioned friend who searched for every little thing that might show how she was feeling in any particular moment.  Because I know that her feelings would change from moment to moment and sometimes… sometimes it’s just too much to have someone repeatedly ask you… “how are you really feeling?” even when you know they mean well.

I don’t ever want her to feel like she needs to console me or comfort me during this time. That’s no longer her role. It is now mine.

This switching of places is unusual for us. I’m more of the cry-baby, tender-hearted one. The one who needs constant assurances. She is usually the strong one who always has a plan of action, a name, a number… a thought and a giggle. Something that moves me from inaction (which I often find myself paralyzed in) towards action. And now, I have to switch places and give her the words, the comfort, the truth that she needs. Doing that is not hard. But it isn’t something that I ever wanted to do.

The truth is basic: Nobody wants somebody they love to go through breast cancer. Especially if they’ve been through it themselves. This shit is hard. You want people you love to be spared this type of hardship. But you can’t protect them from it. You can only help them through it. Be there for them in the ways that they need.

My truth: As open as I seemed to be during my treatment process, I really wasn’t.

See, one of the things that I grew to accept as a comfort in this process was learning to tell some but not all of what I was feeling, what I knew and what I feared. I figured out early on that people do not want to know… really know… the tornado of emotions that you feel during this time. They want to know some of it, that’s true. I couldn’t get away with saying “I’m fine” for too long to my friends. So, I learned to parcel out how much of “I’m fine” to hand out. Too much and people believe that you’re lying. Too little and they get lost in their own personal nightmare of “oh my gawd, how does she handle it and what if that happens to me“… fair assessments on both ends.

Truth between survivors is raw.

But between survivors — and now my dear friend is also my pink ribbon sister — there is an unspoken code of brutal honesty that we share. We don’t lie to each other about how we feel or what we worry about because we don’t have to. We know what it all means and how it changes us. We know how it colors our world differently and makes everything topsy-turvy for a time. So, that raw and brutal honesty… we tend to save and share with each other.

Between survivors, there is a space that goes unsaid. That space says “life is far too short for the bullshit so give it to me real and don’t spare my feelings.” Nobody who has been diagnosed with breast cancer goes back to their naivety about how fleeting life is and how quickly things can change. It’s why we get that steel in our back and face the world head-on, ready to snatch and grab and go for any and everything we want.  The illusion of time is gone. You seek the joy in all things small and minor that will keep you going until the next moment… because it’s what keeps you going until the next moment. No more waiting for the “next big thing” because it might not happy. Being happy now is all that is possible. Now. Not later. Not next year. Right now. Be happy and find joy in this actual moment.

And tell the raw, honest truth. Nobody has time for lies. They waste time because the truth will come out and whatever emotions you were trying to protect are still going to be exposed. So deal with the truth now and respect your time and the people in your life.

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Yes, we are real people. Friends…. no scratch that.. sisters.

 

How to move forward and be a supporter

At this point, I am letting her guide me into how much she needs me and where she wants me to be. She gave me that gift when I was going through my treatment and it was so very precious. But, just like she held my hand, literally and figuratively, throughout the two years that I fought this disease. I too am holding her hand and I won’t let go until she tells me to.

The steps to being a good friend and supporter are simple: listen and do. 

Listen to her. Or just sit with her silently. But either way, give her space where she’s comfortable sharing with you what’s in her heart without that moment becoming about you. Don’t be so stoic that you don’t have any emotions. But find the balance between being a good listener and sharing her emotions.

Do what needs to be done. You have a home and a career or business and a family. You may not know all of her details and systems but you have a good idea of what it takes to run a household and to keep your career or business on track. Breast cancer treatment will wear you out – mentally, physically and financially. Don’t ask her what she needs, just do something that she needs. At your home, the dishes and laundry get washed, right? Well, at her home, those things will need to get done too – but she’s probably too exhausted to do them. Show up, and help out. Or gift her some maid service for a few months. Something like that will be super appreciated. Take her kids for an overnight visit or a trip to the movies. Visa gift cards or gift cards to a restaurant she likes that delivers.

Be easy on yourself… it’s hard for everyone to cope

I still struggle with guilt behind this disease. I think that’s life though. You can overthink everything if you try. And I seem to try daily and succeed at it. Your friend wants to be understood, given room to grieve, helped out without feeling guilty about needing help, and to still be treated like someone you love. If you master that, you win it all.

Also Read: 50 AFFIRMATIONS FOR BREAST CANCER SURVIVORS

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Best LASIK Eye Surgery in Dubai: Clear Vision Starts Here

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The Growing Popularity of LASIK in Dubai

Over the years, LASIK eye surgery has transformed the way people perceive vision correction. Once a procedure reserved for those with severe vision impairments, LASIK has now become a popular choice for individuals seeking to enhance their quality of life by achieving clearer vision. In Dubai, known for its advanced medical infrastructure, LASIK has gained significant traction among both residents and medical tourists. With cutting-edge technology and highly skilled surgeons, Laser eye surgery Dubai professionals offer a reliable and safe solution to eliminate the need for glasses or contact lenses.

As the demand for LASIK increases, clinics in Dubai are continuously upgrading their equipment and techniques, ensuring that patients benefit from the latest advancements in the field. The combination of world-class medical expertise and state-of-the-art facilities makes Dubai an ideal destination for anyone considering LASIK. Whether for cosmetic reasons or due to the inconveniences of traditional vision correction methods, people from around the world are turning to Dubai for clear vision.

Understanding LASIK Eye Surgery

LASIK (Laser-Assisted in Situ Keratomileusis) is a non-invasive eye surgery that reshapes the cornea to correct refractive errors, such as nearsightedness (myopia), farsightedness (hyperopia), and astigmatism. The procedure uses a specialized laser to remove tiny amounts of corneal tissue, which helps the eye focus light correctly on the retina, resulting in clearer vision. Unlike traditional corrective lenses, LASIK provides a more permanent solution, often eliminating or reducing the need for glasses or contact lenses.

The LASIK procedure involves creating a thin flap in the cornea, which is then lifted to allow the laser to reshape the underlying tissue. Afterward, the flap is repositioned, and the healing process begins. One of the primary advantages of LASIK is its quick recovery time, with many patients experiencing improved vision within hours after the procedure. However, successful outcomes depend on several factors, including the patient’s eye health, the surgeon’s expertise, and the technology used during the procedure.

Why Choose LASIK in Dubai?

Dubai is renowned for its exceptional healthcare services, with LASIK surgery being no exception. Many people from different parts of the world travel to Dubai for their LASIK procedure due to the availability of cutting-edge technology and skilled ophthalmologists. When choosing Laser eye surgery Dubai has become a popular destination, patients benefit from advanced diagnostic tools, sophisticated lasers, and world-class medical care.

Another reason for the rising popularity of Laser eye surgery dubai is the reputation of its medical professionals. The city boasts an impressive number of internationally trained and certified ophthalmologists who have expertise in performing LASIK procedures. With their knowledge, experience, and commitment to patient care, these specialists ensure that every LASIK procedure is as safe and effective as possible. Additionally, Dubai’s healthcare system is highly regulated, ensuring that medical standards are consistently maintained, which provides peace of mind to patients.

The LASIK Consultation: Your First Step to Clear Vision

Before undergoing LASIK surgery, it’s essential to have a thorough consultation with a qualified ophthalmologist. During this initial appointment, the surgeon will evaluate your eye health and determine if you are a good candidate for LASIK. This assessment typically includes a detailed eye examination to measure the shape and thickness of your cornea, your pupil size, and your refractive errors. It may also involve tests to check the health of your retina and other components of the eye.

The consultation is also an opportunity for patients to ask questions and discuss any concerns. The surgeon will explain the LASIK procedure in detail, including the risks, benefits, and expected outcomes. They will also inform you about the recovery process and post-operative care. By the end of the consultation, you should have a clear understanding of what to expect, which can help alleviate any anxiety about the surgery. Your surgeon will tailor the procedure to suit your specific needs, ensuring the best possible results for your vision.

LASIK Surgery Procedure: What to Expect

The LASIK procedure is quick and relatively painless, typically lasting around 10 to 15 minutes per eye. On the day of the surgery, you will be asked to lie down in a comfortable chair, and a local anesthetic in the form of eye drops will be applied to numb the eyes. A device is used to keep your eyelids open, and a small suction ring may be placed to stabilize the eye during the surgery.

The surgeon will then create a thin flap in the cornea using a microkeratome or a femtosecond laser. Once the flap is lifted, the laser is directed onto the cornea to reshape it according to the specific refractive error. The surgeon will ensure that the laser is precisely focused, and the procedure is closely monitored to guarantee optimal outcomes. After the cornea is reshaped, the flap is repositioned and begins to heal naturally.

In most cases, patients report little to no pain during the procedure, and any discomfort afterward can be managed with prescribed eye drops or over-the-counter medications. The procedure’s minimally invasive nature contributes to a fast recovery time, and most people can return to their normal activities within a day or two.

LASIK Aftercare: Ensuring a Smooth Recovery

One of the key advantages of Laser eye surgery Dubai specialists perform is the fast recovery time. Most patients experience only mild discomfort after the procedure, such as dryness or a gritty sensation in the eyes. However, it’s essential to follow the aftercare instructions carefully to ensure proper healing and achieve the best possible results.

Immediately after the surgery, patients are typically advised to rest for a few hours while their eyes heal. You may experience some blurry vision, sensitivity to light, or slight tearing during the first few days, but these symptoms should subside quickly. It’s important to avoid rubbing the eyes, as this can interfere with the healing process. Additionally, you should refrain from swimming, using hot tubs, or exposing your eyes to direct sunlight without protective sunglasses during the first few weeks.

Your surgeon will schedule follow-up appointments to monitor your recovery and ensure that your vision is improving as expected. During these visits, the surgeon will check for any complications, such as infection or dryness, and provide treatments if necessary. Most patients achieve stable vision within a few weeks, but full healing can take several months.

Risks and Considerations of LASIK Surgery

Like any surgical procedure, LASIK surgery carries some risks, although they are rare. Possible complications include dry eyes, glare or halos around lights, infection, or an incomplete flap during the surgery. In some cases, patients may not achieve the desired level of vision correction and may require a second procedure or the use of glasses or contact lenses.

It’s important to have realistic expectations about LASIK results. While most patients achieve 20/25 vision or better, some may experience minor vision fluctuations during the healing process. A thorough consultation with a trusted ophthalmologist is crucial to ensure you fully understand the potential risks and benefits of LASIK. With the guidance of a skilled surgeon, the likelihood of complications is minimal, and the benefits of clear vision often far outweigh the risks.

The Cost of LASIK Surgery in Dubai

One of the most frequently asked questions about LASIK surgery is the cost. The price of Laser eye surgery Dubai specialists offer varies depending on several factors, including the type of technology used, the surgeon’s experience, and the complexity of the procedure. On average, LASIK surgery in Dubai can range from AED 5,000 to AED 10,000 per eye.

While the cost may seem high, it’s important to consider the long-term savings. LASIK eliminates the need for glasses and contact lenses, which can be expensive over time. Many clinics in Dubai also offer financing options to make LASIK surgery more accessible to a wider range of patients. It’s essential to thoroughly research the costs and options before making a decision, ensuring that you choose a clinic that offers the best value for your investment in clear vision.

Conclusion

Laser eye surgery Dubai has become a top choice for those seeking permanent vision correction. With advanced technology, skilled surgeons, and excellent aftercare, LASIK provides a safe and effective solution to improve vision and enhance quality of life. Whether you’re tired of dealing with glasses or contact lenses, or you simply want to enjoy the freedom of clear, natural vision, LASIK offers a transformative experience.

The key to successful LASIK surgery lies in choosing a reputable clinic with experienced ophthalmologists who use state-of-the-art technology. With proper care, most patients achieve exceptional results and enjoy clear vision for years to come. If you’re considering LASIK, Dubai offers the ideal environment to make your vision correction journey a reality. Start your path to clear vision today and experience the life-changing benefits of LASIK surgery in Dubai.

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The Benefits of Inpatient Treatment for Mental Health

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When it comes to addressing mental health issues, the path toward recovery can often require more intensive support than outpatient services can provide. Inpatient treatment offers a level of care that encompasses 24/7 supervision, structured environments, and comprehensive therapies designed to meet the complex needs of individuals struggling with mental health disorders. With the aim of fostering healing and promoting long-lasting wellness, inpatient care could be a critical step for those seeking profound change. Below, we delve into the invaluable advantages of inpatient mental health treatment and how it can lay the groundwork for enduring health and stability.

 

Understanding Inpatient Treatment for Mental Health Issues

Inpatient treatment for mental health involves staying at a residential facility that specializes in addressing psychiatric issues. The key benefit lies in the immersive therapeutic environment, which allows individuals to focus solely on recovery without the distractions and triggers of their everyday environment. Such settings typically offer a range of therapies, including individual counseling, group sessions, and possibly medication management.

 

Unlike outpatient programs that provide limited hours of support, inpatient care ensures that patients receive assistance around the clock. This constant access to healthcare professionals means that both acute crises and everyday challenges can be managed safely and effectively. Moreover, having a team of experts available at all times can significantly reduce the risk of relapse or harm.

 

Selecting an appropriate inpatient mental health treatment center is a decisive step in the journey to recovery. It is crucial to find a facility that aligns with the patient’s specific needs, offering tailored programs that address the underlying causes of the mental health condition. From severe depression to bipolar disorder and anxiety, inpatient treatment centers are equipped to handle a wide range of psychiatric diagnoses.

 

Comprehensive Care: How Inpatient Treatment Provides Holistic Support

Comprehensive care in the context of inpatient treatment means attending to all aspects of a person’s well-being. This holistic approach addresses not only the psychological symptoms but also the emotional, social, and sometimes physical health of the patient. Personalized treatment plans are crafted to integrate various therapeutic methods aimed at healing the whole person.

 

Inpatient facilities often employ a multidisciplinary team to administer care, including psychiatrists, psychologists, nurses, social workers, and other specialists. This team works collaboratively to ensure that every facet of the patient’s condition is being addressed, from the medical management of symptoms to the emotional support necessary for healing.

 

Nutrition and physical fitness, for example, are components that may also be included in a comprehensive treatment plan. Good physical health can support mental health recovery, and many inpatient facilities provide activities such as yoga, meditation, or exercise programs designed to enhance overall wellness. These complementary practices can help to reduce stress and improve mood, contributing significantly to the recovery process.

 

The Impact of 24/7 Professional Support During Inpatient Treatment

One of the most compelling aspects of inpatient treatment is the continuous professional support provided to patients. This round-the-clock care ensures that any emergency or setback can be addressed immediately, offering the highest level of safety for patients. It also allows for ongoing monitoring of the patient’s mental state, ensuring that treatment adjustments can be made promptly as needed.

 

The presence of healthcare professionals at all hours provides a reassuring environment for patients. Knowing that there is always someone available to help can ease the anxiety that often accompanies mental health disorders. It also fosters a sense of security and trust, which is instrumental in encouraging patients to engage fully with the treatment process.

 

Building a Foundation for Long-Term Mental Health Management Through Inpatient Care

Inpatient treatment is not just about providing immediate care; it’s also about equipping patients with the tools they need for long-term mental health management. During their stay, patients learn coping strategies, communication skills, and other techniques that they can implement in their daily lives once they leave the facility. This comprehensive approach aims to reduce the likelihood of relapse and empower patients to maintain their mental health.

 

The education and support provided during inpatient care help build a solid foundation for recovery by laying down new behavioral patterns and thought processes. Patients are encouraged to take an active role in their recovery, learning to identify triggers and developing personalized strategies to handle stress and challenges post-treatment.

 

Altogether, inpatient treatment for mental health offers a level of care that addresses immediate needs while laying the groundwork for sustainable recovery. Overall, when tailored to an individual’s specific condition, inpatient care demonstrates a consistent, positive impact on long-term mental health management and the overall quality of life for those it serves.

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The Importance of Detox Programs in Overcoming Substance Abuse

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Overcoming addiction is a challenging journey that requires courage, commitment, and the right support systems. Detox programs play a critical role in this process, offering individuals a safe space to rid their bodies of harmful substances. Under professional guidance, detox can pave the way for recovery, enabling individuals to focus on the psychological aspects of addiction. Keep reading to learn how a structured detox program can be the first step towards a healthier, substance-free life.

 

Understanding Detox Programs and Substance Abuse Recovery

Substance abuse recovery often begins with detoxification, which is the medical process of removing toxic substances from the body. Detox programs are designed to manage the physical symptoms of withdrawal that can occur when a person stops using drugs or alcohol. It’s a critical first step that can help prevent the potentially dangerous effects of sudden abstinence.

 

During detox, the body begins to adjust to functioning without the presence of the abused substance. This period can range from a few days to several weeks, depending on the substance involved and the individual’s history of use. It’s a time of physical and psychological change that sets the stage for comprehensive addiction treatment.

 

While detox on its own is seldom enough for achieving long-term sobriety, it’s an essential component of a broader rehabilitation program. It mentally and physically prepares clients to engage with the therapeutic aspects of treatment, laying a foundation for recovery. The ultimate goal is not just to cleanse the body but to start the healing process that addiction disrupts.

 

For those who seek a holistic approach to detoxification, services such as detox retreats in Palm Springs integrate wellness strategies into the process. By addressing the whole person—body, mind, and spirit—these programs can provide a more comprehensive foundation for recovery.

 

Integrating Detox Programs with Long-term Addiction Treatment Plans

Detox is merely the prelude to the symphony of recovery. For long-term success, detox programs must be integrated with subsequent addiction treatments that address the underlying causes of addiction. Psychology-based therapies, peer support groups, and educational workshops often follow detox to build upon the initial progress made.

 

Customized treatment plans are developed for each individual, considering their specific needs, history of substance use, and the presence of any co-occurring disorders. A seamless transition between detox and follow-up care is fundamental to decreasing the risk of relapse.

 

Continuity of care is also key. Many individuals in recovery benefit from step-down programs, transitioning from inpatient care to partial hospitalization, intensive outpatient programs, and then standard outpatient treatment. This gradual reduction in intensity allows individuals to adapt to sobriety with a safety net in place slowly.

 

Regular follow-up appointments and check-ins further enable recovering individuals to stay on track. Throughout this journey, the skills and strategies learned during detox and subsequent treatments become lifelong tools for managing sobriety.

 

Post-Detox Strategies for Sustaining Sobriety and Preventing Relapse

After completing a detox program, the journey towards a sober life continues with strategies for maintaining sobriety. An effective post-detox plan may include ongoing therapy, continued medical assessments, and involvement in support groups. It’s a comprehensive approach that addresses the individual’s lifestyle and environment.

 

Relapse prevention education is an essential component of post-detox care. Individuals learn to recognize triggers, develop healthy coping strategies, and build a supportive network to help navigate life’s challenges without resorting to substance use.

 

Activities promoting overall well-being, such as physical exercise, proper nutrition, and hobbies, are also essential post-detox. Reestablishing a routine and a sense of purpose can reinforce an individual’s commitment to sobriety.

 

Lastly, active involvement in aftercare programs can provide the accountability needed to sustain recovery efforts. Regular check-ins with counselors and participation in sober community events help reinforce the positive changes made during detox and treatment.

 

Altogether, detox programs provide a vital first step in the journey toward overcoming substance abuse by cleansing the body and preparing individuals for long-term recovery. When combined with ongoing treatment and post-detox strategies, these programs offer the comprehensive support needed for sustained sobriety and a healthier, more fulfilling life.

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